If you're a reader of my fiance's blog, then most of you will know that recently she found herself in a horrible situation with her neighbour. If you're not familiar with Unique Young Mum, or with what's happened, don't worry about running off over there to find out (unless you want to of course) because I am going to write about it here in this post, along with my views.
I had just got off the phone from Jade, when she called me back less than five minutes later, I thought an exciting parcel may of turned up and even though I was busy, I was ready to listen to her excitement over what had arrived. I couldn't of been more wrong when I presumed she was calling me to tell me about her latest received product, my fiance - the woman of my dreams and the love of my life was screaming down the phone, sobbing uncontrollably and making no sense, on top of all of this I could hear her working herself into a right panic, with trouble breathing.
Being the other side of town and having to rely on public transport made me feel so rubbish, my partner was on the phone having a mild panic attack, screaming/crying/sobbing and I didn't have a clue what was going on. I managed to make some sense out of her when she screamed ''HE FLASHED ME'', instantly I felt like a different person, a rage like no other filled me, and even though I had no idea who 'he' was, I wanted to kill the man who had made my partner feel this way.
I was with my mate and quickly explained it to him, I was mad, I was shaking, I wasn't making no sense, I just wanted to get to Jade, to cuddle her, to give her a kiss on the forehead, to tell her everything was going to be okay. I wanted her wrapped up in my arms, one of the few places I know she feels safe, but I was the other side of town, with a wild head. I couldn't think straight, but luckily my friend was able to get on the phone to his girlfriend, and she came and picked us up.
I got dropped off to Jade's, it felt like she took an hour to open the door, I could see her through the windows pacing about, I just wanted to get inside and hold her, comfort her, cry with her, and ask what the hell has happened. Jade answered the door as quickly as she could once she see it was me, she was on the phone to her mum crying, she told her mum she'd call her back but as soon as her head hit my shoulder the loudest of wails left her mouth, the tears run down her face at a speed I've never seen before.
Within a split second, she was on the floor, in a mess, instantly a new feeling come over me, yes I was still mad, yes I still wanted answers, and yes I still felt like murdering whoever this 'he' was, however, my fiance needed me whilst she was in the worst state I've ever seen anyone in, I'm not sure what a breakdown is, but I'm 100% sure Jade was having one in that moment.
I quickly ran up to my step son's room, leaving Jade at the bottom of the stairs, crying, moving slowly, screaming and acting so different to her usual self. I knew that Little Man was due to be collected by his dad earlier on but I just wanted to make sure he wasn't in the house, luckily he wasn't, and was safely with his dad. I then returned to my fiance, a blubbering mess and helped her to her feet.
She refused to go anywhere near the back half of her front room in fear of 'him' seeing her. I sat her down on one sofa and asked what had happened? Jade then told me in between uncontrollable tears that whilst she was having a fag in her own back garden, her neighbour sexually exposed himself to her. Rage flew back inside me, I stood up and started acting the only way my body wanted me to, with violence, I was ready to knock on this perverts door and kill him.Jade was pulling on my arms, begging me not to leave her, in the state I was in I couldn't think of where I put her keys when she let me in the door (I locked the door back up once inside, and had put the keys down). I charged towards her back door with the plan to jump over his cheap and tacky fence, but Jade's scream stopped me in my path.
I was disgusted with myself, I was there for my fiance and now she was worried about me kicking off with the nonce who'd left her this way, she was dealing with so much. To see my fiance scared to be in her own back garden was awful, scared to be near her own rear windows, scared in her own house.
I called the police, because if I wouldn't of, someone was going to be calling the police on me. I thought we would deal with things the proper way, Jade was worried about recurring trouble but I was able to convince her that this was the best thing, he couldn't get away with it, and the two choices were to let me deal with it, or let the police deal with it, she didn't want me to deal with it which left us with one choice.
The police come out and yet again Jade was in tears going over what had happened, the police - although unintentionally, scared Jade even more when they told her she'd done the right thing in getting the police involved, as often this sort of behaviour is the first of more serious crimes - sexual assault. Again I cradled Jade in my arms, this time in front of the two policemen stood inside her front room, and watched as the person I so madly love broke.
The policemen arrested the next door neighbour and took him off for questioning whilst Jade had to make her way to a different police station to give her statement! Neither myself or Jade drive, so it was an option of getting on public transport and taking her son with us (as he was due back very shortly), getting in a taxi alone with a stranger - most likely a man, or relying on friends and family. Luckily Jade's friend Lucy was able to pick her up and take her down to the police station, kindly waiting around for two hours before dropping Jade back off home whilst I looked after my step son.
Later that night, Jade received a call from the police to say he was being released, and 20 minutes later what did I see? The pervert getting dropped off to his front door! Not only did my partner have to make her way to the police station, she also had to make her way back and she was the VICTIM in all of this. My blood was boiling even hotter than the few hours previous. Whilst none of us expected him to get more than a slap on the wrist, I was disgusted to see him dropped back like he was some kind of royalty.
A few days later we found out the man had been released without charge, he admitted his flashing incident by saying it was an accident, ACCIDENT!? I'm a bloke and I can tell you now our genitals do not just happen to pop out from behind our boxes, through our trousers by accident!
Since the incident, I've watched the woman I fell in love with change dramatically.
However I still love her the same, well even more than I did and I will be here forever. I am helping Jade on her plight to not let the pervert next door destroy her, and I will try with every bit of power within me to help her fulfil her wishes.